Top 10 Love Reggae Songs & Lyrics That Touches Everybody - No05

Wild World - Maxi Priest

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Now that I've lost everything to you
You say you want to start something new
And it's breaking my heart you're leaving
Baby I'm grieving

But if you want to leave take good care
Hope you find a lot of nice things to wear
But then a lot of nice things turn bad
Out there

(Chorus)
Oh baby baby it's a wild world
It's hard to get by just upon a smile
Oh baby baby it's a wild world
I'll always remember you like a child girl

You know I've seen a lot of what the world can do
And it's breaking my heart in two
Because I never want to see you sad girl
Don't be a bad girl

But if you want to leave take good care
Hope you find a lot of nice friends out there
Just remember there's a lot of bad air
Beware

(Chorus)

You know I've seen a lot of what the world can do
And it's breaking my heart in two
Because I never want to see you sad girl
Don't be a bad girl

But if you want to leave take good care
Hope you find a lot of nice friends out there
Just remember there's a lot of bad air
Beware

(Chorus) 

Justin Bieber and Jaden Smith Teach You How To Dougie

Awesome moment, #Justin Bieber And #Jaden Smith #Jerks, #Dougie for real, check out the video below.

 

LOL: Justin Timberlake and Jimmy Fallon show us what #Hashtag (#) abuse (use) really sounds like!

If you have any ironic millenial friends, you've probably heard someone say the word "hashtag" out loud, categorizing a statement as if it were a database entry.

Jimmy Fallon and comedy sidekick Justin Timberlake took this oh-so-relevant joke to the extreme on Fallon's Late Night with an ordinary conversation converted into Twitterspeak. "Hey check it out, I brought you some cookies," Timberlake says. "Hashtag #homemade, hashtag #oatmealraisin, hashtag #showmethecookie."

The verbal hashtagging descends into a sendup of the increasingly common internet trope, which now litters Facebook posts, tweets, Instagrams, and even news headlines. Fallon does a regular segment called "Late Night Hashtags" that draws on tweets from topics like #ParentFail and #FakeJayZLyrics, and his familiarity with the genre makes for a realistic convo that blends elements of teen tweeting with mommy Facebooking. By the end of the volley, you'll at least be #smh if you're not all #fml.

Source: Theverge

Top 10 Love Reggae Songs & Lyrics That Touches Everybody - No6

Cheaters Prayer - Christopher Martin

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Christopher Martin

(Intro)
See Martin yah, woaai
Lawd hammercy
Woaai(2) hey(2)
It's not the first nor the last, so, so much pretty girl a pass and
Holding out is such a task, that's why me a seh this from mi heart

(Chorus)
Oh Lord, don't let me cheat on my girlfriend, cause as far as I can see,
She loves only me,
Oh Lord, don't let me cheat on my girlfriend, but Lord if you can't stop me
From cheating, just don't let me get caught
No, no, no, don't let me get caught
Nooo, don't let me get caught(no no noo)
Said I hope I don't get caught

(Verse 1)
So listen to me now, it's such a sticky situation
Me promise my girl fi only look inna her direction
But everywhere me turn me see a next one(gosh) and me body get weak and a
Ball fi attention
I only wanna give the girls what they want, my lady says I'm wrong but she
Would understand
I don't want to lie but I don't want to cry
Yo I'm so very weak inside

(Chorus)
Oh Lord, don't let me cheat on my girlfriend, cause as far as I can see,
She loves only me,
Oh Lord, don't let me cheat on my girlfriend(please don't met me cheat),
But Lord if you can't stop me from cheating(if you), just don't let me get
Caught
No, noo, don't let me get caught
No, no, no, no don't let me get caught(none a tall)
Said I hope I don't get caught(please nuh mek she catch me Lord)

(Verse 2)
Yo, a nuh like me nuh try, I love my baby, but the girls them still deh pan
Me mind
It's unfair I can't deny, cause I couldn't dare to think about my lady and
Another guy(yuh mad)
And yo it hard, yo it hard, yo it hard to have one girl, it kinda rough fi
Play the part
She woulda lef me if she knew what's in my thoughts
I hope I never pay that cost.

(Chorus)
Oh Lord, don't let me cheat on my girlfriend(please nuh mek me cheat),
Cause as far as I can see, she loves only me,
Oh Lord, don't let me cheat on my girlfriend(oh no), but Lord if you can't
Stop me from cheating(if you can stop me Lord), just don't let me get
Caught
Neva ever, don't let me get caught
Neva ever don't let me get caught(nuh mek she catch me)
Said I hope I don't get caught(hope I don't)

(Verse 3)
So listen to me now, she seh bun she never mek fi it
Fi get and can't give a straight craziness
Suh when me sidung and me meddy it, just can't mek she know seh she getting
It(yuh mad) (no)
One girl to a man, so we setting it
But fi we have one girl we keep forgetting it
Never get caught yet, we think we making it
I hope we don't end up regretting it

(Chorus)
Oh Lord, don't let me cheat on my girlfriend, cause as far as I can see,
She loves only me,
Oh Lord, don't let me cheat on my girlfriend, but Lord if you can't stop me
From cheating, just don't let me get caught..

Top 10 Love Reggae Songs & Lyrics That Touches Everybody - No7

To Your Arms Of Love - Jah Cure

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Jah Cure

[verse 1:]
Baby i understan da reason why your leavin
But dat doesnt make it any easier to bear
I know dat i played dis game a fool wen i was cheatin
Now i'm cryin (now i'm cryin)
Said i lost it, my intentions was not clear
(was not clear)
But i was messin wit your feelins i didn't care
But i love you (but i love you)
But i love you (but i love you)yeah

[chorus]

So i'll cryyy if you(if you)wont take me there (wont take me there)
To your arms of love(to your arms)
So i'll cryyy if you(if you)wont take me there
(wont take me there)
To your arms of love(to your arms)yea yea baby yeah
(to your arms of love)

[verse 2:]
Sunshiney days, brighten my life
Again again(to your arms)
Wen i'm with you
I feel so alive forever
Cause wen i am down,down and out
You lift me up off my route
Cause baby i will(baby i will)
Love you until forever forever we'll be
You and i for all time
We'll be,we'll be

[chorus]

Top 10 Love Reggae Songs & Lyrics That Touches Everybody - No8

One More Time - Gyptian

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Gyptian

Can I ask you what you doing tonight? Baby
Can you feel me? Even tough where an a different side (oh oh)
Do you know this? What is happening
Can you realize it in front of your eyes?
This is love that I'm offering
Baby I don't come to discuss
Let me do ya, when I do ya cause I know you want me to do it
And I can satisfy

One more time, one more night
One more baby just get it in
One more night and I can do it
I can make you right
One more time, one more slide
One more cash, baby one more lie we gonna do this straight up we ain't gonna fight
Just one more, just one more night

I can see it in your eyes it's impressionism
Anybody in calling I seek one more time
I can keep you pushing up down like a plane in the sky
I can let all your dreams come true right in front your eyes
The deeper I'll go girl the more pleasure I apply
Feel rour pressure bursting like a greet from the sky

One more night, one more baby just get it in
One more night and I can do it
I can make you right
One more time, one more slide
One more cash, baby one more lie we gonna do this straight up we ain't gonna fight
Just one more, just one more night

Whisper so safely, telling she love me
Wanna care my baby
She knows me if I'm happy (Ohh man)
She make me everything I ever need
She's the one that meant for me
Sets my soul and mind blind free
I need some....

One more time, one more night
One more baby just get it in
One more night and I can do it
I can make you right
One more time, one more slide
One more cash, baby one more lie we gonna do this straight up we ain't gonna fight
Just one more, just one more night

Top 10 Love Reggae Songs & Lyrics That Touches Everybody - No9

Love Gets Sweeter - Wayne Wonder

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Wayne Wonder

Last night we had a quarrel, over some messed up reason
Some say reason that it wasnt nice
Sometimes we each other, just to get even
I apologize,

Love gets sweeter, as a
Just to relieve us, from all the stress they make it right
To all the squeezerout of my mind
So Ill never leave her, Ill never leave her

Because of you, you know I put these words to my reality
They said our love always leads to jealousy
So baby when I tell you trust me, its guaranteeing
So baby let me pull you closer


Love gets sweeter, as a
Just to relieve us, from all the stress they make it right
To all the squeezerout of my mind
So Ill never leave her, Ill never leave her

Crazy love, love, yes, love,
Crazy love, love, yes, love,
No more nagging on phone, you know Im coming home
You know, you know, you know

Love gets sweeter, as a
Just to relieve us, from all the stress they make it right
To all the squeezerout of my mind
So Ill never leave her, Ill never leave her X 2

Top 10 Love Reggae Songs & Lyrics That Touches Everybody - No10

Can't Come Between - Hezron

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Hezron

Lyrics:

Whoa, dedicating this one to the wives

CHORUS
Now that the ting tun up,
Tings sign and seal up and the love weh We have shot a road
Wha dem a go do now, oh, oh, oh?
Know ah you me love,
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, well
Ring pon finger, everything brighter, and the world know ah you run it tough
Wha dem a go do now, oh, oh, oh
Know ah you me love
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, well

VERSE I
Some send BB and some send letter
Some message facebook and some send twitter
Cyan't come between me and me wifey, hey
Cancel dem application like the U.S embassy
Pon some of dem bare face you see
See people property and gwaan fi run in
Look like ah sumn outta Lord of the Rings
Baby me ah tell you don't worry,

BRIDGE
Cause our love means
Dem cyan't come between
You mean the whole world to me,
Dem cyan’t come between, Oh ah!
Never gonna leave you hanging baby
No one to take your place
I’m so proud to say, you’re my wifey Yeeah


CHORUS
Now that the ting tun up,
Tings sign and seal up and the love weh We have shot a road
Wha dem a go do now, oh, oh, oh?
Know ah you me love,
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, well
Ring pon finger, everything brighter, and the world know ah you run it tough
Wha dem a go do now, oh, oh, oh
Know ah you me love
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, well

VERSE II
Cyan't even cook ah pot of Rice
They burn up
Tell dem fi go steam up one Fish
They burn up
If ah pretty looks, dem cyan't tess dem cure
Inna bed low dem nuh have noth'n ah use, eh!
Know they'll never could come between us
Genuine love is what made us
Ooh, Ooh, Ooh
And baby you should know Oooh

BRIDGE
Our love means
Cyan't come between
You mean the whole world to me,
Dem cyan’t come between, Oh ah!
Never gonna leave you hanging baby
No one to take your place
I’m so proud to say, you’re my wifey … yeah


CHORUS
Now that the ting tun up,
Tings sign and seal up and the love weh We have shot a road
Wha dem a go do now, oh, oh, oh?
Know ah you me love,
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, well
Ring pon finger, everything brighter, and the world know ah you run it tough
Wha dem a go do now, oh, oh, oh
Know ah you me love
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, well

(Repeat bridge till fade)

Thanks to Kapital O'jay ( @ojdogg1),ojdogg1@yahoo.com for correcting these lyrics

Bill Gates: Control-Alt-Delete 'was a mistake'

Microsoft's co-founder claims that an IBM keyboard designer created the function and wouldn't allow a single button to access the log-in screen.

Microsoft co-founder Bill Gates has admitted what quite a few Windows users have been thinking for a long time: control-alt-delete is an unnecessary mechanism.

Give us a single button, Gates said. But it wasn't to be. (Credit: Harvard/Screenshot by CNET)

Speaking in a broad interview at Harvard over the weekend, Gates said that the control-alt-delete function, which allows users to log in to Windows and access the task manager (you may be most familiar with it as the first step in rebooting), was conceived after an IBM keyboard designer wouldn't give him a single button to perform the same chore. (That part of the conversation starts at about 16:45 in the video embedded below.)

"So we could have had a single button, but the guy who did the IBM keyboard design didn't want to give us our single button," Gates said. "So we had, we programmed at a low level -- it was a mistake."

As big a mistake as it might have been, the function lived on through generation after generation of Windows. This marks the first time that Gates has so forcefully acknowledged that the feature wasn't necessarily the best idea.

The function was created by IBM PC designer David Bradley as a way for computer users to reboot their machines. In an interview with CNET recently, Bradley said he didn't understand why Gates and Microsoft decided to make it a log-in feature, adding that "I guess it made sense for them."

Source: CNET

Lamborghini’s New $3.9 Million Veneno Supercar

Attention, McLaren and Bugatti: the gauntlet has been thrown.

On Monday, Italian carmaker Lamborghini introduced its Veneno supercar, a 750-horsepower beast whose $3.9 million price tag immediately makes it one of the most expensive cars ever produced, putting the $2.4 million Bugatti Veyron and the McLaren F1 (a mere $1 million, although they’re tough to find) in the shade.

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British man creates jet-powered bicycle

A plumber from Lincolnshire who already holds three Guinness World Record titles - including one for the world's fastest mobility scooter - has built a jet-powered push bike dubbed Norah.



Colin Furze, 32, had the idea for this latest invention after saving his friend's mother's cycle from the scrap-heap.

By attaching a crude jet engine to the back of the old Raleigh bike and extending the frame to put the rider a safe distance from the heat, the 32-year-old managed to reach speeds of 50mph on-board the modified bike that he has named "Norah".
Footage of his test ride has been viewed just under 150,000 times on YouTube since it was uploaded on Thursday.

Mr Furze, who left school at 16, has become an online sensation after creating a YouTube channel dedicated to his weird and wonderful creations.

The speed-loving self-styled "garage inventor" also lays claim to Guinness World Records for the world's longest motorbike and the world's fastest mobility scooter.

10 Thinking Errors That Lead to Anxiety

All of us have the ability to create our own negative moods.  We often feel that it's a negative event, something that happens outside of our control usually, that causes depression or anxiety.  But it's what we tell ourselves about that event that leads to feeling bad.  Negative thoughts lead to anxiety and depression. But the good news is that you can learn techniques to free yourself of these patterns and feel better. Here are some examples of distorted thinking.

• Catastrophizing--taking an event you are concerned about and blowing it out of proportion to the point of becoming fearful. Example: believing that if you fail a quiz then the teacher will completely lose respect for you, that you will not graduate from college, that you will therefore never get a well-paying job, and will ultimately end up unhappy and dissatisfied with life.

• Jumping to Conclusions: making a judgment with no supporting information. Example: believing that someone does not like you without any actual information to support that belief.

• Personalization: when a person attributes an external event to himself when there is actually no causal relationship. Example: If a checkout clerk is rude to you and you believe that you must have done something to cause it, when you may not have done anything at all.

• Filter: when a person makes a judgment based on some information but disregards other information. Example: Someone attends a party and afterward focuses on the one awkward look directed her way and ignores the hours of smiles.

• Overgeneralization: making a broad rule based on a few limited occurrences. Example: believing that if one public speaking event went badly that all of them will.

• Black and White Thinking: categorizing things into one of two extremes. Example: Believing that people are either excellent in social situations or terrible, without recognizing the large gray area in-between.

• Labeling: attaching a label to yourself after a negative experience Example: Feeling awkward at a party leads to the conclusion: “I’m an awkward person."

• Emotional Reasoning: You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.

• Should Statements: You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.

• Disqualifying the positive: You dismiss positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.

So, what do you do?

1. Know the patterns. Familiarize yourself with the these distorted thinking patterns. Look at them often. Memorize them.
2. Recognize distorted thought patterns.  Once you know the patterns, you can start to recognize thought patterns that may not be serving you well. Whenever you are feeling depressed or anxious, examine how you got yourself there.
3. Challenge your own thinking.   After you have learned to recognize your thought patterns that aren't serving you well, learn to challenge those ways of thinking.  Ask yourself if you could look at a situation differently. This is even more effective if you have a loved one help you to identify and challenge your distorted thinking patterns.

Sources:

Beck, J.S. (1995). Cognitive Therapy: Basics and Beyond. Guilford Press.

Burns, M.D. David (1980, 2000). Feeling Good

Burns,  M.D., David (1999).  The Feeling Good Handbook

Can oral sex give you cancer?

Some types of oral cancer are linked to human papilloma virus (HPV) infection in the mouth and throat. Find out the possible risks of this infection from oral sex, and how to protect yourself.

(Image: Oral Sex Cancer)

Rates of oral (mouth) cancer are rising. In England, 6,056 people were diagnosed with oral cancer in 2010, up from nearly 5,500 in 2008.
Oral cancers are sometimes called head and neck cancers, and include cancers of the mouth, lip and tongue, as well as cancers of the tonsils, oesophagus, larynx (voice box), nasopharynx (the area that connects the nose and throat) and the thyroid gland.

What causes oral cancer?

Experts have known for years that the main risk factors for oral cancer are drinking alcohol and smoking or chewing tobacco. But there is growing evidence that infection in the mouth with HPV is a major cause of oral cancer.
Around 25% of mouth and 35% of throat cancers are HPV-related but the exact figures vary between different studies, possibly due to different ways of testing for the virus or varying levels of smoking and other risk factors.
Detecting the HPV virus in a sample of people who have oral cancer does not mean that HPV caused the cancer. The virus becomes part of the genetic material of the cancer cells, triggering them to grow.

How do you get HPV in the mouth?

There are more than 100 types of HPV, and around 15 are associated with cancers. These 15 are known as high-risk HPV types.
The types of HPV found in the mouth are almost entirely sexually transmitted so it's likely that oral sex is the primary route of getting them. The high-risk HPV types are also passed on through vaginal and anal sex, and are linked to:

• cervical cancer
• vulval and vaginal cancer
• anal cancer
• penile cancer
• laryngeal cancer
• tonsil cancer

Some can be passed on through skin-to-skin contact and cause warts, including genital warts. The types of HPV that cause visible warts are low risk and are not the same types that cause cancer.
Most sexually active people (about 90%) will have been exposed to either high or low risk genital HPV types by age 25, but only 2-3% of these people develop visible genital warts. So most of us have been infected, but few are affected.
It's not known how common HPV infection in the mouth is. A study carried out in 2009-10 concluded that the prevalence of oral HPV infection in American men was 10%, and in women 3.6%. Risk factors for oral HPV identified by this study included:

• age: prevalence peaked in the 30-34 and 60-64 age groups
• number of sexual partners: 20% of people with more than 20 partners had oral HPV infection
• current number of cigarettes smoked per day

There is good evidence suggesting that, for some oral cancers, risk factors may be linked to sexual behaviour. These risk factors include:

• ever having oral sex
• having oral sex with four or more people in your lifetime 
• and, among men, having first sex at an earlier age (under 18)

At the moment, there is very little research that looks at the possible risks from giving oral sex to a man compared to giving oral sex to a woman. But we do know that HPV-related oropharyngeal cancer is twice as common in men than women, and is most common in heterosexual men in their 40s and 50s (as compared to the rates in homosexual men).
This indicates that performing cunnilingus (oral sex on a woman) is more risky that performing fellatio (oral sex on a man). This seems counterintuitive, but the concentration of HPV in the thinner moist skin of the vulva is mugh higher than the amounts of virus shed from the thicker dry skin of the penis, and this affects how easy it is to pass the virus on. Other research indicates that HPV can be present in semen and passed on at ejaculation.
What is definitely known is that other infections are spread via oral sex, including herpes, chlamydia, syphilis and gonorrhoea, so it makes sense to protect yourself and your sexual partner by practising safer oral sex.

How does HPV cause cancer?

HPV does not directly give you cancer but it causes changes in the cells it has infected (for example, in the throat or cervix), and these cells can then become cancerous.
Very few people infected with HPV will develop cancer. In 90% of cases the infection is cleared naturally by the body within two years.
However, people who smoke are much less likely to clear the virus from their body. This is because smoking damages special protective cells in the skin called immune surveillance cells, allowing the virus to persist. Cervical and vulval cancer is rare in women who don't smoke, unless they have some other cause of immunosuppression (a weakened immune system).
If cell changes do happen, it can take a long time – even decades. HPV-related oral cancers seem to respond better to treatment than non-HPV-related oral cancers.

Could an HPV vaccine help men as well as women?

Yes. In the UK, girls aged 12 and 13 are routinely vaccinated against HPV. This is because it is known that nearly all cervical cancers are HPV-related and that the vaccine offers protection in women. The vaccine also protects women from HPV-related vulval and vaginal cancers.
In addition, it will probably protect them from anal and oral cancer. There is currently no conclusive proof that the vaccine will protect against oral cancer, but it's thought to be likely because HPV works in the same way to cause mouth, throat and anal cancer as it works to cause cervical cancer.
In time, as the HPV vaccine reduces the number of cases of HPV infection in women, HPV will become less common in the general population – therefore it will affect fewer men as well as fewer women. This has already happend in Australia, where cases of genital warts have fallen dramatically in women and heterosexual men under 21 within four years of the start of the vaccination campaign.
However, a vaccination given only to girls and women will not benefit men who have sex with men.
Boys and men are not routinely given the HPV vaccine in the UK. This is because they do not need to be protected against cervical cancer. Emerging evidence on the impact of HPV vaccination on other cancers is being reviewed by the Joint Committee on Vaccination and Immunisation.
Men who have sex with men may have an increased risk of anal cancer, linked to HPV infection, and made worse by co-infection with HIV. There is evidence that the HPV vaccination may protect against HPV-related anal cancer, and recurrence of anal pre-cancer after treatment. 

If you are worried

If you're worried about oral cancer, see your GP. When mouth cancer is established, it has fairly clear symptoms, and your GP should be able to see them by looking in your mouth. If oral cancer is diagnosed early, it is easier to treat, but about half of these cancers are diagnosed when the disease has already spread within the neck.
The symptoms of oral cancer include:

• red – or red and white – patches on your tongue or the lining of your mouth
• one or more mouth ulcers that do not heal after three weeks
• a swelling in your mouth that lasts for more than three weeks
• pain when swallowing
• a feeling as though something is stuck in your throat

Safer oral sex
According to the second National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles, carried out in 2000, more than 75% of men and women aged 16-44 years had oral sex in the previous year.
You can make oral sex safer by using a condom on a man’s penis, because it acts as a barrier between the mouth and the penis. A dam (a square of very thin soft plastic) across a woman’s genitals can protect against infection.

Source: www.nhs.uk

10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Kids

There are a handful of obviously wrong, damaging and terrible things to say to a child ("I wish I never had you" or "You're the reason we're getting a divorce" count among them). But it may surprise you to discover that some seemingly harmless phrases can trigger resentment, dent self-esteem or bring up other less-than-desirable sentiments in your kids. Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time…,notes, “We have the best of intentions, but often we say things to our kids without thought to how it’s being perceived by the child.” Here, 10 phrases you should think twice about before repeating to your kids.

1. "I know you can try harder."
Frustrated by a daughter who you know is capable of much more in school, sports, music, etc.? While you (hopefully!) aren’t saying such obviously hurtful things as “You are so lazy!”, any comment that makes it seem as though you’re not satisfied with her efforts can not only be discouraging to your child, it can also do the opposite of motivating her to try harder, says McCready. If your “try harder” has to do with tasks or chores, be clear about what you expect: “When you have your room cleaned up, then you can go out and play.” If you’re talking about academics, “take note of times she does go the extra mile,” such as: “Wow! That extra time spent on your book report really shows!”

2. "Are you sure you need that second cupcake?"
Yikes. You have good intentions—keeping your child fit and healthy—but you’re better off steering clear of any talk that might foster a negative body image, says McCready. If you’re worried about what your child eats at home, use actions, not words, such as stocking your kitchen with healthy foods rather than junk and emphasizing family physical activity like after-dinner walks. That way, if there are cupcakes at a party, your child’s fine to indulge. And walk the walk yourself; you mix your message if you tell your kid to keep his hands out of the cookie jar while you’re inhaling potato chips. Incidentally, the same goes for telling your child that he’s a “great” eater; try to avoid labels (he’s my picky child; she’s such an adventurous eater; this one needs to stay away from treats) because “you never want to turn food into a power issue,” says McCready. As best you can, keep food-related comments specific and positive: “Wow, I see you tried the squash soup!”

3. "You always…" or "You never…"
Undeniably, it’s tempting—almost a reflex at times—to spit out an always (“You always forget to put your socks in the hamper!”) or a never (“You never remember to call me when you’re running late!”). But be careful because those two words are a minefield, says Jenn Berman, PhD, a psychotherapist and author of The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids. “At the heart of ‘You always’ and ‘You never’ statements are labels that can stick for life.” Kids become what we tell them they are, so telling your child that he “always” forgets to call makes him more likely to be the kid who, you guessed it, never calls. Instead, ask your child how you can help him or her change: “I notice you seem to have trouble remembering to bring home your textbooks. What can we do to try to help you remember?” suggests Dr. Berman.

4. "Why can’t you be more like your sister/brother?"
Siblings and rivalry go hand in hand—and anything you say that sets up comparisons only fuels that natural flame, says McCready. If you’re saying, for example, “Your brother is practicing piano and he sounds great—why can’t you do that?” you’re essentially telling your child that piano is his brother’s thing, and he’s not measuring up. “Comparisons slot siblings into categories—the smart one, the athlete—and discourage kids from trying the thing their sibling is ‘good’ at.” Try instead to encourage each child in whatever pursuits are “his” or “hers,” while avoiding comparisons.

5. "I told you waiting until the last minute was a mistake!"
You repeatedly informed your middle-schooler that if he played video games all afternoon, he’d have less time to study for the math test. And guess what? He stayed up too late, went to school sleepy and unprepared, and didn’t do as well as he could have on the exam. But any time you say “I told you so” to your child, you’re in effect telling him you’re always right, and by contrast he's often wrong or a screw-up, says McCready. When he comes home with the poor grade, resist the “I told you so” urge and instead ask him if the two of you could brainstorm some smarter ways to study the next time. Also, “point out the positives that occur when he does follow through,” says McCready. For example, if he cleans up his room when asked, saying “Isn’t it easier to find all your stuff when your room’s tidy?” puts the control and the credit with him—not you.

6. "You’re the best at soccer!"
It may seem obvious that denigrating your child’s efforts (“You’re no artist!”) can be damaging, but in fact, even the positive pronouncements can be bad because they are limiting, says McCready. “Say you always tell your child how smart she is. She may, over time, become scared of trying new things or more challenging work, for fear she won’t be ‘smart’ anymore if she gets a B instead of an A.” It can also backfire if your child is struggling with work and you say, “But you’re so smart!” She may only feel worse for not living up to the label you’ve given her. But what if your child is not a great soccer player? If she enjoys it, that’s enough. But if she feels she’s not good at it, she may be less likely to try a different sport later on, says McCready. Focus instead on her hard work: “You show up to every practice and try your best,” or “What a fantastic job on this science project!”

7. "Don’t worry—the first day of school will be fine."
What’s wrong with trying to soothe an anxious kid out of worry? “If you tell your child not to worry, you’re dismissing her feelings,” says Dr. Berman. “So now, she’s still worried about the first day of school, and she’s worried that she’s worried, or that you’re upset over her worry.” Same goes for “Don’t cry” and “Don’t be angry.” Instead, say, “I can see you’re worried. Can you tell me what you’re most concerned about, so we can talk about it?”

8. "Because I said so!"
We've all been there—you just need to get out the door and you don’t have time to explain why you need to switch off the computer and head to a family event/doctor’s appointment/religious obligation. “Because I said so,” puts all the control in your hands, and dismisses your child’s growing sense of autonomy and ability to figure things out, says Dr. Berman. “Because I said so” also leaves out a potential teaching moment. Let’s say your kids don’t want to visit their aging great-aunt on a sunny day when they’d rather ride their bikes. “Because I said so” only makes them feel less in control of what they are able to do. Instead, try, “I know you’d rather ride your bike, but Aunt Clara really loves seeing you, and we try our best to honor our family.” That way, even if they continue to grumble, they know their feelings matter; plus, they’ve learned a valuable lesson about how you conduct yourselves as a family.

9. "I wish you didn’t hang out with Jack; I don’t like that kid."
Yeah, a lot of parents don’t like “that kid,” for whatever reason, but “the moment you tell your child that ‘that kid’ is not your favorite, he becomes more appealing,” says Dr. Berman. Evaluate, first, what you don’t like about Jack. Is he just not your cup of tea, or does he present some sort of danger you don’t want your child exposed to? If it’s the former, grit your teeth. If it’s the latter, though, “Ask your child some open-ended questions,” says Dr. Berman. “What do you like about hanging out with Jack? What do you guys do?” The idea is to keep the lines of communication open between you two, and hopefully spark discussion about values, right and wrong, and so on.

10. "That’s not how you do it! Here, let me."
You asked your child to stir the soup, or fold the towels, or wash the car. Sure, you want the help—but then she kind of does a not-so-great job. Depending on how much of a perfectionist you are, it can be tough to hold yourself back from just jumping in and taking the task back, “But that’s a mistake, because then she never learns how, and is less likely to try anything else you ask down the line,” says Dr. Berman. If you can stand messy folding or a less than clean car, let it go. Or, you can step in but in a collaborative rather than dismissive way: “Here, let me show you a neat trick my mom taught me about folding towels!”

Article Source: 
Womansday.com

By Denise Schipani

100 Sexiest Men of 2012 - Part 1

100. Ashton Kutcher

Age: 34
Single? Ashton was never going to stay single for long! He’s now dating his That 70s Show co-star Mila Kunis

99. Matthew McConnaughey

Age: 42
Single? Matthew McConaugheymarried model Camila Alves this year and the couple are expecting their third child together, so you can take that as a no.

98. Garrett Hedlund

Age: 28
Single? No. Ladies, would you really want to upset the lovely Kirsten Dunst?
See Him Next: Garrett Hedlund is currently filming Lullaby or catch him on-screen in Inside Llewyn Davis.

97. Chris Meloni

Age: 51
Single? Chris Meloni is married to production designer Sherman Meloni, with whom he has two children.

96. Aston Merrygold

Age: 24
Single? Yes! Although Aston Merrygold made the revelation in the summer of 2012 that he’d given up looking for a girlfriend. Fear not, ladies, apparently that doesn’t mean he’s not up for dating.

95. Russell Brand

Age: 37
Single? Following his split from wife Katy Perry, Russell Brand recently confirmed he’s dating Isabella Brewster, the younger sister of actress Jordana Brewster.

94. Mark Salling

Age: 29
Single? Mark Salling’s been linked to Audrina Patridge, Rumer Willis and his Gleeco-star Naya Rivera, but this is one actor that doesn’t seem to like to be tied down. 

93. George Clooney

Age: 53
Single? Sadly no, George is regularly seen sweeping Stacy Keibler off of her stilettos on international red carpets. 

92. Will Smith

Age: 45
Single? Will Smith’s been married to Jada Pinkett since 1997.

91. David Gandy

Age: 32
Single? Following his split from The Saturdays star Mollie King, David’s now dating fellow model Sarah Ann Macklin.

90. Ryan Lochte

Age: 28
Single? It’s been a “golden summer” for US swimmer Ryan Lochte but his mum has categorically told the press that he’s “too busy” to be in a relationship and that it “wouldn’t be fair to the girl”. No harm in trying though!